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Have you even eaten a super hot chicken wing?

I don’t mean a regular hot chicken wing, I mean the one with the friggin mushroom cloud next to the name on the menu.

It’s normally the last one in a long list where the first one on the list is hot and then there are like 8 degrees of additional hottness with names like atomic, or braveheart.

soooo hot

You eat it almost as a dare if not actually because someone dared you to eat one. Friends tell you, it’s ok, it’s not that bad, I had one a few months ago. You smother it in ranch as if that’s going to somehow help you.

It starts off easy enough, gone in a minute or so.

It was kind of hot but not terrible. Then slowly and with increasing intensity, your lips start to tingle and your pulse speeds. You begin to feel like your mouth is actually melting and no amount of beer, celery or wings of lesser intensity are of help. Your friends laugh as you begin to sweat and your face turns red. Five minutes in, it has only gotten worse but you are pretty sure that you have finally plateaued. Finally, your taste buds numb, your blood pressure slows and over the next 30 minutes you begin to return to a less red faced, sweat saturated state.

About that time, when your you feel fully revived and have convinced your self that the worst is behind you, is when another other ultra-mega-super-suicidal wing starts calling your name. Maybe a friend (if you still consider them a friend) reminded you it was there. Maybe you had experienced some kind of masochistic high from the first one. Either way, you seem to be watching it like Tyrone Biggums to a crack rock.

Whatever the reason, you cave. You put the wing on your plate and pretend that it’s no big deal. You tell your friends, I have already been through this, it’s no big deal. You take a deep breath and eat the wing fully convinced that you are somehow better prepared to handle the sweat, the pressure and the pain.

Then the reality of the situation sets in.

The first wing was bad enough, but now you have eaten another one on top of the former. You couldn’t have known at the time, but now it’s like 10 times worse than the first one alone. The 2 have somehow exponentially compounded their individual impact like a payday loan with a couple of missed payments.

You wonder, as your mouth ignites like a biblical lake of fire . . . what the frick was I thinking.

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I would like to formally introduce my second chicken wing.

hunter lee schultz

Hunter Lee Schultz
He is 3 weeks old now
Was 9lbs and 13oz when born

Heather and baby are happy and healthy and we are adjusting well to our newly intensified life. =]

Here are some more pics.

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The making of a holiday family portrait.

This is what happens when your camera starts to take video instead of setting your timer.

Here is the eventual end result.

Happy holidays!

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On to the next challenge. . . and the fun.

For those of you who are not my wife and who do not work with me on a regular basis, the decision has been made and boy am I happy about it.

I have pulled back on one of the projects that was greatly contributing to the amazing ass whooping I had been taking over the past 4 months and man does it feel good to have a normal workload.

Not only will I have an easier time managing and growing Bold, but I have more time for family and I am getting back to those positive personal cycles. :)

Here is how I have been spending some of that new free time. Enjoy.

Clumsy Dance:

Mercy Rose Dance:

Hanukkah Dance:

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Signs that the maddness is finally coming to an end.

For those of you who are not my wife or who work with me at one of the 2 places I frequent, I have been extremely busy these days and am on the verge, like 11:30 this morning, of putting an end to it and piling the majority of my time back into 1 full time endeavor instead of 2. Not sure yet which one that will be.

The past 4 months have been an absolute whirlwind and between spending time with family and the 2 endeavors I formerly spoke of, I have been completely neglecting myself. I don’t play Frisbee any more, house hold projects aren’t getting done, I have put back on 10 pounds of the 30 I had lost in the past year (prior to the past 4 months) and I don’t even know what friends are anymore.

broken bicycle

As far as cycles go, mine are completely out of whack. In fact, I would presently consider myself in the middle of an anti-cycle.

Funny thing about cycles. Everyone has them and a wise man once told me that cycles need busting, good or bad.

A bout a week ago I decided that I needed to make some hard decisions in order to be fair to my family, my employees, my clients and most importantly myself. No sooner had I done that than one of my good friends and marketing hipster came back online and started blogging again. His first post back was about cycles and timing no doubt!

Little did I know that without his dialog, I had been missing an important voice in my life.

A couple of days ago, I was in bed and all of a sudden I began to miss another important voice that had inspired me from March 17, 2006 to March 17, 2007. Ze Frank is a creatively inspiring power house. I don’t know him like I do Cord but he is also a motivating force in my life. I was thinking, “Man, I wish Ze would start vlogging again”. I’m not sure what made me think about it, it’s just with all the stress lately, I needed a release.

Then, on today of all days, when I am stressed to wits end and my body is actually showing physically painful symptoms of my mental strain, He answers my prayers with this. (As an Athiest, answering my prayers is a hard thing to do)

This gave me a boost and reminded me that no matter what is going on, I need not be stressed and that no matter what happens today, I have 2 strong directions to travel. Either one is a big step in the right direction and either one will bring plenty of challenges and rewards.

Wish me luck!

Take Home Quiz:

How have your cycles been lately?
Do you think Ze is back for another year?

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New Blog Alert! Lagers & Loungers

Like beer?

Wish someone would pay you to drink beer and talk about it?

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Me too.

Enter LagersAndLoungers.com.

Myself and my fellow He-Brew Jeremy Swiller will be leading you on a harrowing journey of beer and relaxation in our effort to get people to pay us to keep doing it.

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Tagged - 8 Random Things

Thanks for the tag Cord. Now I can actually write something on my own blog rather than constantly commenting on yours. :)

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So here are 8 random things you may not know about me:

1. This is the first time I have been “tagged”.

2. In high school, I had a part time job showing up to parties in character costumes. Yea, I was Barney. One time they sent me out as the Red Power Ranger. I was wearing a full body spandex suit with an over sized helmet leaving very little to the imagination. It was a pretty large party and there were like 20 moms who I’m pretty sure never took their eyes off me. I have never in my life, sense that day, felt more like an objectified slab of beef. A shame really. ;)

3. Even though I have been running my own company profitably for a year now, I still have no idea what I am actually doing. I just take it a day at a time and do everything I can to bring value to my clients.

4. I have yet to meet anyone else in the business world who has a better plan.

5. I met my wife at a swing club… swing dancing… what were you thinking? When we met she had just turned 21. After our first dance, I asked if I could get her a drink. I came back with a sprite. I was 19. She was surprised but she thought I was cute and liked my moves. The rest is history.

6. In the past year, I have lost over 30 pounds playing Ultimate Frisbee. I was up to 260 lbs at one point. Now I am down to 225.

7. I am lucky enough to be married to the first and only love of my life.

8. I don’t think God and Government should have anything to do with each other. I would even like to see God out of the pledge and off the Dollar Bill. I even think it is wrong to force people to swear on a religious text in court. I have nothing against religion, I just don’t like civic decisions being made within religious context.

So now I guess I have to tag some other peeps.

Garrett
Nathania
Ben
Phil
Thad

Feel free to comment any stuff about yourself that I don’t know.

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The Institute of On-Line Entrepreneurship

Here is a piece of brain crack that has been bouncing around in my head all week.

Enjoy and don’t forget to share!

Warehouse in durham

I want to find an old, abandoned warehouse in downtown Durham and clear it out. Ideally, we would find a building we could purchase but a flexible landlord could work as well.

I would get a phone line, power and internet up and running and invite any and all Local On-Line Marketing Entrepreneurs to share the space. Eventually, we could get partitions and conference areas.

Rent would be negligible and we would all have people around to bounce ideas off of and problem solve with. Partnerships would ensue on a project basis and people with totally different skill sets could get together as needed. Everyone in the building would be a possible vendor and a possible client.

Eventually, we could share some support services like lawyers and accountants.

If I could learn a little more about how to pull this off or could get a few good leads on abandoned space that would be willing to take a chance on an experimental tenant, I would be willing to follow up on this and try to make it happen.

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The Winner, with The Best Joost Pick-Up Line, is… Drumroll please…

Ok guys,

The jury (Matt) has deliberated and a winer has been chosen.

Jack Freeman is the winner of the 2nd Joost Invite Contest.

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He has not only won the invite but will also serve as the Judge and creator of the 3rd contest.

Jack,

Send me the email addy you want to use for the invite and let me know what you would like to do for the 3rd contest. Here are some Ideas. (Joost Invite Contest #1 Finalists)

Here is what Matt had to say.

Not only did Jack bring quality, but he brought them in multiples as well.

This was a tough one to beat considering Stephen stepped it up early. I only wish Stephen had come back. I would like to have seen a face-off. Melissa was definitely in there too. It could have been a battle royal to the death.

So here are my favs:

    From Jack

  • Would you like to share my bandwidth? I have a really fat JoostLine.
  • Come on, I know ya wanna Joost. I promise its bigger than my iPod Nano
  • Joosting with yo makes my CPU come out of hibernate
  • Baby, lets go in the back and Joost. I‚ll have you screaming louder than dial-up.
    From Stephen

  • Hey baby, how about we go back to my place and Joost? I‚ll have you screaming - Web two-point-OHH - all night long.
    From Melissa

  • I wish I was cross-eyed so I could Joost you twice.
  • I was hoping your Joost wouldn’t block my pop-up
  • You have great hardware but to make Joost work properly, I have to install my software which has to be transferred from my USB stick. Can I stick it to you so we can begin with the installation process?
    From Valzi but only because it scares me.

  • I like to give myself rug burns and then smell the skin. JOOST! Baby.

Thanks again to everyone who participated. What a blast. :)

There is still one more chance to win an invite -
Episode 3 - Revenge of the Diss

PS. I have a good friend who may be continuing our little game with 3 invites of his own. I’ll keep you posted.

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The Hipster needs your help. Vote now, vote often!

Hey gang,

A good friend of mine runs MarketingHipster.com. He is currently running in second place for the best marketing blog bloggers choice award.

It’s a great blog, one of the few that I make sure to check on a daily basis and it deserves your vote.

Here is the blurb from his site to tell you more about it.

Well well, look what we have here. Marketing Hipster has beeen nominated for the Best Marketing Blog at the Blogger’s Choice Awards. If you would like to show your support for the Hipster community, please click on the image above or here and vote for the Marketing Hipster! Many thanks.

Thanks for your help!

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Lessons from Hard Knocks University - College of On-Line Marketing

My friend and partner Garrett French recently wrote this post about lessons learned form recent visits to Hard Knocks University over at the Search Marketing Standard Blog. He mentions and links to a story about a post in which he was getting flamed for flagrant marketing during some recent forum participation on behalf of a client of ours.

Well, that story was informative, but the real story was how we earned our forum participation stripes when we first introduced ourselves to that same wonderful group of fellas.

At the time, the site we were working on was still in development, we had some static pages all linking to amazon and didn’t even have a blog. Furthermore, we weren’t even completely up to speed on how all of the free shipping, price match guarantees and other value ads worked.

Everything we were doing was exploratory into a space we as of yet knew little about.

My goals for the forum participation campaign were as follows: (Garrett’s goals may vary slightly)

  • Gain access to smart people who can help us answer tough questions from our users and customers.
  • Bring enough value back to those communities so that we will be seen as members of the community rather than outsiders trying to exploit it.
  • Use our interactions with the community to fuel and inform valuable content for us to blog about and to bring additional value back to the forums.
  • Work all of this into the rest of our marketing with high quality links and traffic.

In the beginning:

We had a nice honeymoon in one particular forum that boasts about 17,000 members. Not a small fish by any means. We had asked about 4 different questions on behalf of site users and gotten great feedback and fantastic input to take back to our users.

Additionally, we made sure to let the users know where we got the answers, urged them to join the assisting forum and made sure to let the forum know that we had done so.

Remember, we didn’t have a blog yet to show them how we were using their feedback.

The lovers quarrel.

Then one day, on post 4, the trolls showed up.

It started with someone posting about how we were just using them for customer service. After some more back and forth one of the forum members went on to our site and ripped it limb from limb with a series of harsh-but-true criticisms.

Reading it, I felt like I was looking into one of those magnifying mirrors women use to see into their pores. It was not a pretty sight by any stretch of the imagination.

Denial - Anger - Bargaining

All three of these stages went by pretty quickly as we realized how true of a text lashing we had just received. We knew what was on the line and how important these forums were to us. We also knew that we would face these problems in every forum we were breaking into.

We thought about ignoring them, giving the forum time to cool off, telling them the site was still young, we would try to change it later and all kinds of other wrong moves. We even considered pulling out of the forums all together like dogs with our tails between our legs until the new site was launched and we had something to show for our effort.

Depression

For the rest of that day G an I were beaten. We didn’t know what to do. Our cred was slashed and our next move had to be the right one. In order to address all of their criticisms I would have to make a couple of days worth of edits to the site as we couldn’t find references to some of the advertised features on Amazon we were being ripped into over.

Additionally, this was not the only forum we were beginning to get push back in.

We slept on it.

Acceptance

That previous evening, we were both up all night and somewhere in there, time gave us back our motivation. The next morning we researched all of the feedback and made a list of way to handle or remedy each blow dealt to us.

For the rest of that day, I made site and messaging changes, added pages and made other alterations to shore up our defenses from further attack.

During this time, Garrett crafted our response to be firm, slightly apologetic but mostly to say “You were right. Look, we fixed it.”.

In retrospect, that was the only wining response we could have come back with and our response informed and helped us smooth over the push back we were getting in other communities.

Victory

Our reply was well received, the site changes and apology/site response worked. We showed this community that we wanted to belong, we were willing to change, we are open and responsive to criticism and that we were serious about this relationship.

If this is beginning to sound like your marriage, it should.

The path forward

Sense then, we have tweaked our approaches, launched the new site and started blogging like gang busters. Because of our relationships with forums, we have had a steady supply of great ideas and feedback to inform useful blog posts and some killer link bait.

The site is breaking traffic records every week and Google alone is now responsible for 35% of our site traffic up from 10% 4 weeks ago. In that same 4 week span, forum traffic as become our is our biggest referral source and before the Google organic results hit a couple of days ago, referral traffic had made it’s way up to 50% of our total site traffic for an entire week after publishing some great linkbait.

Mind you that the linkbait was informed and written with the input of the forum relationship we had saved through an open and honest response to harsh-but-true criticism.

Follow Up

If you would like to learn more about forum participation and how to become part of the conversation in your marketplace, check out the great articles Garrett has written recently.

The Community Correspondent - A Guide To Creating Link Worthy Content Through Forum Participation

Lessons In Branded Content Creation Through Community Participation

Still want more?

Give us a call or email us to see how we can help you become part of the conversation in your marketplace.

919-451-8983
adam@boldinteractive.com

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